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Further down this page we present a lengthy and useful article about
how to communicate effectively with the people you meet.
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Why Good Communication Skills Result in More Friends and Influence
Who does not
want to have more friends and influence more people? This can lead
to a happier life, a better job, and enriched lifestyle. Essentially,
there are no minuses and only pluses to building up your network
of friends and associates. So, here are ten reasons why those communication
skills will yield more friends, and help you in influencing others.
1. Because They
Show an Interest
is a two-way street. By using the simple traits of talking and listening
to others, you can build up friendships and influence people. It
is quite common for people to love to talk about themselves or a
favourite subject. People with good communication skills will show
an interest in that subject and ask questions.
an interest can be conveyed by non-verbal signals and they're also
part of good communication skills. You keep eye contact with the
person speaking, you nod and gesture, when appropriate. Your body
is turned toward the person and you're not just flopped across a
All of these
subtle body language signals convey meaning to the other person
subconsciously. By honing all of your communication skills, you
can win people over.
2. By Being
negative things all the time: in the news, from critics, their bosses,
and so on. Good communication skills mean not merely focusing on
There is an
old saying that speaks of catching more flies with honey than vinegar.
A good communicator knows to not give feint praises; they need to
be valid, but even praising a child for just making their bed or
putting their dirty dishes in the sink can go a long way to influencing
This is where
honesty comes into the picture. If you give false praise, invariably
the truth will one day come out and then you have lost a friend
or the ability to influence that person in the future. You can be
positive without going overboard.
3. Because They
To get a friend
you have to be a friend, and this is communicated in words and actions;
sometimes merely a smile can convey that. Step one is getting to
know people, which involves showing an interest and being a good
listener. You then talk to the people about things they like, show
an interest in those subjects, and project your desire to know the
You can find
someone incredibly interesting, friendly and desirable, but if you
can't communicate all of that to them, you aren't going to build
friendships and influence people.
If you're able
to talk to people in a friendly manner, if you can write to them
on subject they like, if your body language conveys interest and
curiosity in them, this will lead them to reciprocate.
4. By Remembering
It's said that
God is in the details; so too is connecting with people to influence
them and become friends.
This ties in
with several points already mentioned; when you talk to someone
or read about them, you invariably pick up small details about them,
their lives, their likes and dislikes.
A critical aspect
of good communication skills is remembering these details and then
using them to advance your goals. If you write a letter to someone
and remember to ask about their wife or mother, they pick up on
If you're trying
to influence people to buy a product or support you, giving a presentation
where you mention something that is important to them, that is a
step toward winning them over.
5. Because They
There are plenty
of naysayers in the world that will tell others they cannot do something.
Part of good communication skills is encouraging people to achieve,
to live up to their full potential.
mean giving them false hope; that again is a sure way of losing
friends and not influencing people.
the abilities of others, seeing where their strengths lie and then
encouraging them toward a reasonable goal, you can make friends.
In this case, the good communication skills are the ability to give
the right sort of pep talk, or giving them the guidance to find
where their talents can take them.
6. By Disagreeing
Without Being Disagreeable
agree all the time and some people are very vocal in their disagreements.
Using good communication skills to get the fact that you disagree
with someone across, without being argumentative will allow them
to see your point of view, yet not feel that you are against them.
If you alienate
people, that is a quick way of losing them friends and losing any
chance of influencing them ever again. The best way to handle this
is by first explaining that you understand their point of view,
that you respect it but you respectfully disagree, and then state
7. By Not Insulting
When you are
trying to win someone over, as the points above have mentioned,
complimenting people and encouraging them will often win them over.
At the same time, not using vulgar language and insulting them will
also please them.
skills means speaking and/or writing in a concise and eloquent manner,
and not resorting to profanity and insults to try and make a point.
8. By Correcting
In The Correct Way
In any element
of life there are times when you have to correct someone, whether
it is a child, a spouse, an employee or someone else. If you yell
and scream at such people, humiliating them in front of others,
and offer nothing constructive, you will lose them.
Part of good
communication skills is correcting people in the right way. You
point out their positive features, mention where they are falling
short and then give them guidance as to how to correct their failing.
9. Because They
Can Win People Over
When used correctly,
good communication skills convince people to support you, either
as a friend or in some other activity.
This is a talent
once seen in door to door salesmen; they could talk anyone into
buying just about anything. This is also something that politicians
and religious leaders are famous for doing.
If you can use
your words, whether spoken or written down, and convince people
of your view, you can build friendships and influence people to
do just about anything.
If you look
at people who are influential, either locally or on the national
stage, they are also very successful people: politicians, business
people, performers, and so on. They use their good communication
skills for a multitude of purposes.
see that a person has the ability to win people over, it impresses
they, and they tend to want to follow that person and/or get to
know them. It could be as simple as putting on a good performance
in a show, telling some great stories, writing an interesting book
or article or succeeding in business.
There are plenty
of books on the subject of making friends and influencing people.
Yet, a lot of it comes down to you: how you present yourself, and
your words and ideas. By mastering a number of easy steps, you can
improve your ability to communicate with people and thus build friendships
and networks of people you associate with.
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