Meeting Women
Meeting women
(or men) for the first time is often a nerve-racking experience
for many. The first date that promises so much can so easily go
wrong. Joanne King gives us some useful advice on meeting women...
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Step You Should Take to Alleviate Anxiety When Meeting Women
by Joanne King
Has a similar
scenario like this one ever happened to you before?
You’ve met a
pretty lady on a matcher maker website and you’ve both planned to
hook up at a local coffee shop to meet in person for the first time.
You’re quite excited by this meet and greet as you think she is
quite a hottie. But once you get there, anxiety kicks in and you
feel your heart about to jump out of your throat as you head to
approach her.
Yes, she is
even more beautiful then the pictures she had shown you, this has
in turn created even more anxiety, and as you go to greet her suddenly,
your mind draws a blank, you look for some words desperately to
pull from your mind to say to her, you’ve managed to stutter out
a sentence and your not even sure if it had made any sense!
Well, maybe
you haven't experienced that exact same scenario; however I'm sure
you've probably experienced something similar. That is just one
of many examples of anxiety when approaching women.
The good news
is, there are ways of eliminating this type of anxiety. I will show
you one of the methods you can use right now in order to put a stop
to your mind drawing a blank.
The first thing
you need to do is to pre-plan some of your conversations with the
lady in question.
The absolute
best way to do this is to get a piece of pen and paper to write
down what you plan to talk about. Writing it down, will help it
sink into your subconscious so you’re less likely to draw a blank
when you approach her. Also, after you have written down some topics
you plan to speak with her about, read it over and over again, and
play the scenario over in your mind.
- Plan Your
Greeting – Make sure you make eye contact and stand with good
posture. Making good eye contact and standing with good posture
will give her the impression that you have high confidence – women
are very attracted to a man that is confident. And you will feel
more relaxed when you the positive reaction she will give when
you exert this type of confidence.
- Write down
some questions you would like to ask her. This is good for a number
of reasons. It helps you get to know her better – this is quite
an important detail if you want it to go further (possible relationship),
you will begin to feel more at ease as you get to know her and
she’s going to be as happy as a sperm whale is in squid infested
waters because she gets a great opportunity to speak about herself.
Women love talking about themselves.
- Prepare to
tell a story. Everyone enjoys a good story and it often triggers
a memory for them to reciprocate one in return. Here is one of
my stories that may help you trigger some memories for yourself.
So you can begin planning some of your stories.
This back dates
to when I was 5. I love telling stories about my childhood; I was
adventurous and really quite devious.
I had not long
started school, (I wasn’t particularly fond of school when I first
started, in fact I even told my mother on the first day of returning
home from school that they didn’t need me to go anymore, I told
her they already had enough kids in the class).
We were living
in a house on stilts is what I’d call it. But back in those days,
they were pretty popular (the-in-thing). There were two stairways.
One was through the back door and one through to the front door.
My brother,
Daniel was a few years younger then myself so he would wait at home
for me each day by the front door, but would never see me come through
it. So curiosity got the better of him and he asked me how I get
inside the house after I finish school each day.
I told him I
had magical powers and that I could walk through walls. He was totally
amazed and asked if I could give him the power to walk through walls
as well. I obliged, waved my hands around a bit and said “there,
now you got the power too, what you got to do is run as fast as
you can into the wall”.
You could just
imagine his disappointment when he planted face first into the wall
only to discover there was no magical power of walking through walls
;-)
© Joanne
King - http://www.anxiety-panic-free.com/approachwomen.html
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The
best
advice on meeting women is to always be yourself. This means
not pretending to be someone or something you're not, in other
words being genuine and sincere. Add to that an honest concern for
the other person and you have the way to achieve lasting friendships.
Like any relationship, friendships have to be worked on, of course,
they have to be maintained and allowed to grow.
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